“I guess working in counselling and with couples, I always knew that there were a lot of different factors that come into play and although we might say men might react differently in some situations to women, it doesn’t mean it will be like that in every case. But she adds that she knew the book wasn’t the whole truth. Relationships Australia counsellor Denise Reichenbach says she found Men Are From Mars was useful for explaining in an easy to access way why some couples struggle with one of the biggest issues in a relationship - communication. Why would our boyfriends’ eyes glaze over when we wanted to talk? Why did they prefer to go to the pub and watch the rugby on Saturday afternoons than see us? Why did they run away to their “man cave” at the slightest hint of the word commitment? There seemed to be little point trying to understand the opposite sex if what Gray was teaching us was correct - they were as unfathomable as alien beings. Together with my girlfriends we used it as a manual to try and understand some of the more baffling behaviour of our partners. I remember my boyfriend’s mother lending me her well-thumbed copy. Since then it has remained a popular way of explaining common problems couples face trying to get along.ĭuring the mid 1990s, it seemed almost every woman I knew was reading Men Are From Mars. It has been more than 20 years since John Gray’s bestselling book Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus helped define relationships for a generation of women based on differences between the sexes. I think that science is used to justify gender difference as natural but there is resounding evidence that our culture, society, norms, expectations, customs and ideologies play the most significant role in shaping the gender order.” Gender difference "is an outmoded and limited way of seeing relationships and I think it is an easy way to operate within relationships because it justifies behaviour and patterns in some relationships. “This research confirms something we already knew”, she says.
Dr Kellie Burns, a gender expert from the University of Sydney welcomed the new research as an important step in challenging ideas around gender.
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